Thursday, April 26, 2007

Thus Spake The Wussy

1. I will always apologize to people for every small mistake I make so that they know I have good intentions.
2. I will give gifts/presents to as many people as possible (especially women I like) so that they will like me.
3. I will always be "humble" (have low self esteem) so that I won't hurt anybody.
4. I will try to help others by solving their problems so that they will help me when I am in need.
5. I will wallow in self-pity when people reject me. I will think to myself: "what have I ever done to deserve this?.. I helped them so much and look what they did to me now..." and other "feel good" thoughts.
6. I will try to make friends with people on online communities (especially with those girls who have beautiful profile pics belonging to some random actress or model).
7. I will flatter people so that they will do the same to me (which makes me feel good).
8. ...

and ofcourse there are loads of other things which one might do in the same situation but I am fast phasing out and thus finding it hard to remember (wink wink) and capture the perfect example of the nervous, huddling bundle of less-than-nothingness.

PS: There's nothing wrong with helping people out. I still do it. But now I don't associate it with getting something back. The problem is finding the delicate balance between giving your time to someone else and to yourself. I better not give any advice on this since for some people sacrifice is important where as others stress on the importance of self service (and some people like to do both). The only point I would like to make is that if you feel the need to help someone then it would be preferable to "teach them fishing, rather than giving them fish every time they need one."

6 comments:

sampath said...

First of all, I would like to give you complete credit for admitting to truth which most people wouldn’t. But why should we expect a return for everything what we do in our lives, when we already know that expectations are the cause of all our miseries. Re(al)joy in life is when we do things in life without expecting anything in return. Then why expect? Why become miserable? Why not be wise? Why not? Why not?

Rejoy said...

@sampath
i knew u would reply this way, and i was waiting for it :P. The "PS" section in the post gives u the reply (which i am sure will satisfy u)
The post was a frank analysis on what happens to those who don't have a life and goes around interfering with those of others ;)

-: :Abhi: :- said...

it was luvely to hear the UAE national anthm after such a lng break!...yeah..i seriously miss the time i had ther in UAE..
Yeah..helping out...yes..there is so much of joy in doing tht...BUT...its really difficult to find ppl who're really wrth all tht..in the sense...ppl with Gratitude...are rare..yeah may b..One can say Dun xpect nything in return..though we dun xpect nything g8 back..we always to xpect gratitude atleast...keep rolling dude..have a nice time..
u get time chek out http://deviantshots.blogspot.com ..chek out the archieves as well..:)

keep rolling..

Rejoy said...

@abhi:
greetings from one fellow uae-ian to another ;)... and yes, u make perfect sense on the "helping" topic... keep up the blogging, dude...

Arnab Pal said...

May I just add another limited thought ??

Expectations are non-voluntary as simulation of saint-like thoughts are painfully never ending compromises with self.

I had once seen a movie called "Me Myself and Irine" which comically underlines something similar. To expect may be hard but to ignore that; may just be a bit harder...

Reni said...

ugh! i wud never like to b a wussy!